Urban Dictionary even calls it "Asian Booty Disease." But that didn't mean it still didn't bother me. Most Asians are born with flat butts-it's a genetics thing. Despite having other unrealistic body expectations for myself, such as having an hourglass-shaped body or bee-stung lips, my flat ass became the issue that I was most insecure about, even though it was the one I knew I would never be able to change. It was only after an ex-boyfriend drunkenly told me that he wanted to give me butt implants-"huge ones"-that I became acutely aware of the fact that my butt was not the ideal of the moment. In those years, I was blissfully unaware that my underside was lacking volume, and that some people might view that as an issue. Back then, Kim Kardashian hadn't yet broken the internet by balancing a wine bottle on her apple-shaped bottom and Nicki Minaj's hit song Anaconda dominated the charts.
It was never an issue growing up in the '90s, as a woman's derriere wasn't talked about as a beauty standard as much as it is today and I wasn't impacted by pop culture-induced insecurities. I've lived my entire life with Asian Butt Syndrome (ABS).